So here's the real issue: in learning the DBT skills I am teaching my clients, integrity is a fundamental quality everyone should adopt and I feel strongly that I am dealing with some issues of honesty.
The questions I hope my clients will address are the importance of being honest with oneself even if they are not happy with the information they confront.
Integrity is a really precious commodity that many people do not understand. I feel strongly that in order to manage the vulnerability we all carry, we must practice telling ourselves the truth.
My task now is to communicate the power of being honest with ourselves and being willing to take responsibility for this condition. How can we consider ourselves reliable, trustworthy people if we are unable to be truthful and even more, if we are unable to be truthful with ourselves.
These are important concepts that we cannot expect other people to practice, if we are unable to practice them ourselves.
Friday, June 13, 2014
Wednesday, June 11, 2014
Back to the Password
I have finally uncovered the really weird reason Google will not permit me to change the password and thus easy access to this blog:
They don't believe the e-mail to which this blog was originally connected no longer exists.
Google thinks in order to protect my identity, it must carve that old e-mail address in stone and thus NEVER change it!
So I am stuck back in the early 21st century with a non-existent e-mail address while everyone with whom I would like to share these posts are connecting to blogs generated from sites that are alive and well in 2014.
Watch the steam rise from my frustrated self. Breath. It's Mercury retrograde. Sigh.
They don't believe the e-mail to which this blog was originally connected no longer exists.
Google thinks in order to protect my identity, it must carve that old e-mail address in stone and thus NEVER change it!
So I am stuck back in the early 21st century with a non-existent e-mail address while everyone with whom I would like to share these posts are connecting to blogs generated from sites that are alive and well in 2014.
Watch the steam rise from my frustrated self. Breath. It's Mercury retrograde. Sigh.
Mercury retrograde or mindfulness?
Summer craziness and on top of all of that Mercury is retrograde. Okay, astrology isn't for everyone, but this little condition does remind me to slow down and let go of the frustration of not getting everything completed right this minute.
If I hadn't spent so many years with my ex who was an astrologer, I wouldn't spend so much time thinking about the stars. It does help to put the glitches and confusion of daily life off on some other condition than my lack of mindfulness.
And there's the real issue - staying focused on the present, doing one task at a time and reminding myself to take a deep breath before I make a decision are the actions I must practice.
It's so hard to let go of all those issues over which I have NO influence. So the real work is to remind myself of Radical Acceptance - change the things I can, let go of those things I cannot change and recognize the difference between the two.
Breath.
If I hadn't spent so many years with my ex who was an astrologer, I wouldn't spend so much time thinking about the stars. It does help to put the glitches and confusion of daily life off on some other condition than my lack of mindfulness.
And there's the real issue - staying focused on the present, doing one task at a time and reminding myself to take a deep breath before I make a decision are the actions I must practice.
It's so hard to let go of all those issues over which I have NO influence. So the real work is to remind myself of Radical Acceptance - change the things I can, let go of those things I cannot change and recognize the difference between the two.
Breath.
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